I don’t dismiss someone based on his looks, because when you get to know someone, you can become more attracted to them.
If someone writes a great, engaging email, but is only average looking, I may still respond.
I read your emails, and I get it: you don’t give a shit. When someone starts off saying they’re emailing me again, it’s like I feel bad for ignoring them and thus I pay more attention to them.
So what if hot chicks get deluged with awfully mean and awfully written emails – they’re hot chicks. I was a little surprised at your ruthlessness, but hey, I’m a hot chick. (I’m working on a catchphrase here.) This week’s lesson from Olivia is far more practical. When you get a lot of emails, it’s very easy for most of them to just get lost and drowned out, even ones that I liked. I TOULD YOU about the power of the second email months ago, and I’m happy to see Olivia agrees.
(Can not add link because I totally made that up.) But as we suggested last week, we are not done with Olivia, our resident hot chick. When I go through my inbox, I do read every message.
No, there will be no more stories of woe, no more pleas for sympathy for the complicated predicament of being an attractive lady online. That might sound like a lot of time, but it generally only takes 10-30 seconds to read a message.
Olivia’s answer to my question can help any dude or lady who tries their hand at internet dating. I mean, two random digits are better than just tossing out a “Hey,” or an alarmingly creative “Heya,” right? ” fellow kinda intrigues me, like if you opened his email it would just go on listing a bunch more racket sports. And only Well gang, I hate to say I told you so, but — actually, no I don’t. If I haven’t responded to your second attempt, I’m clearly not interested.
You may think this applies only to men looking for women, or folks trying to attract someone a bit out of their league – but that isn’t so. Most captivating subject line in that assortment goes to…the guy who wrote “86”, I guess? I’ve just gone from spending 10-30 seconds on your email and probably not even looking at your profile to a few minutes thinking about you. But you gotta handle the second email just right (for suggestions, follow the link). A third email is a little too Bates Motel for Olivia’s tastes.
To elucidate her point, Olivia sent me a screengrab of her inbox. I have had some guys seriously send multiple messages with no responses.
I don’t know what they’re thinking, but clearly they can’t take a hint.
Because my landlord is really getting tired of that.
Olivia offers a good deal of advice on what a guy (or girl, for that matter) 50 other guys have asked her “how are you”, “any plans for the weekend”, “how is your week going”, so don’t be surprised when I don’t answer if that’s the ENTIRE text of your message.